As you continue to read this post you will hopefully understand the title. It is a popular saying my grandpa frequently used with me.
Nearly every single day I hear the excuses. They come from everywhere and everyone. I hear parents tell me that, "It won't be a good day for little Andy because...." (you fill in the blank). It could be lack of breakfast, sleep, broken home, you name it.
I listen to students inform me of why they made a bad choice on the bus or in class. The message seems to center around blaming or making excuses. Last week a student told me, "When I'm on the bus it gets loud. When it gets loud I get angry and I hit people." My first thought was, this student should never attend a concert : )
Even in my own home I hear the excuses. My oldest said, "Today isn't gonna be a good day, I have a terribly stuffed up nose."
Don't kid yourself, it isn't just students. I hear adults do it as well. We blame parents, we blame our own busy schedules and we make excuses for why we won't be at our best.
True story, last April I ran in the Orthopedic Rehab 5K. As I prepared for this race I had been told it was a "fast" course and that the last mile flies because it's downhill. For weeks I trained and prepared. The day finally arrived and it was frigid. I vividly remember going out to warm up and I ran straight west up Michigan Ave. I was being pelted by snow. The wind was howling out of the west and I knew the middle part of the course all headed in that direction. I could feel myself beginning to slip into an excuse mindset. I see this all too often, individuals make an excuse or lower expectations. It is as though some people don't want people to think they gave it 100% and came up short. I ask why? Why make excuses, why lower expectations? Why not just do your best and OWN the outcome? For three weeks I have talked to our students about being proactive. I continually urge them to take responsibility and not to blame others. For some I'm seeing growth, but for many I still hear excuses.
So I take you back to that day in April. Wind howling in my face, snow ricocheting off my bare arms. I started mile 1 at a torrid pace. I was feeling great, I was only 10-12 paces behind Dave Jordan! Next came mile two, the wind socked me in the face and I could feel myself tiring. I was passed going up the hill, it was at this moment I could have broken down mentally. I could have blamed my training, the weather or anything. Instead I tried to be mentally strong and push myself. I was determined to give it my all! During mile three I positive self-talked myself through the difficult parts. In the end I finally PR'd! I ran an 18:47. But the story doesn't end there.
Three weeks later I ran my next 5K. One big difference, between the races I got pretty sick. As I arrived that Saturday morning to run I wanted to back up my 18:47 with another fast time. Inside I felt weak and way below my best. I had decided on the drive in that I was going to run my hardest. No excuses! I didn't mention my health to anyone there. I started out fast, my first mile was pretty good. Mile two was a struggle, but I still felt as though I had a good race going. Then mile three came and we turned up hill. I didn't seem to have my finishing gear, but I was positive self-talking myself through it. When the race ended I didn't PR. I ran a 19:32. 45 seconds slower. I owned my time. On this day, I gave it my best and that's what I produced.
Years ago when I spent night after night with my grandfather I would share scenarios with him. I would say, "if only," or "I could've," or "I should've,". He always responded with one of two sayings, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda!" The second was, "If Dog Rabbit." I still chuckle when I think of him saying that to me. The point is, he didn't want to hear excuses, he just wanted me to OWN the outcome.
All of that being said we come back to human nature of downplaying expectations and making excuses for not being at our best.
As adults we ask our students/children to be willing to take risks. We don't want them to fear failure. Yet as adults we don't always model this. Adults can be quick to make excuses and deflect responsibility. Day in and day out we must model being Proactive, we must be the positive force that always gives it our all and takes responsibility.
This week's big questions: How do you model being proactive? It's important to understand, relate and empathize, but we all choose our attitudes. If you have a child that is coming from a difficult environment how do you help the student look beyond the struggles?
Next Week At A Glance:
Monday, Sept. 30th: Happy Bday to Lori Phillips
Monday, Sept. 30th: Tech meeting at 1pm
Tuesday, Oct. 1st: Happy Bday to Brad Lenhart
Wednesday, Oct. 2nd: No Wednesday Assembly, 5th graders leave for camp
Friday, Oct. 4th: 5th graders return from camp at 4:30
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